If you think you're shy, he will laugh at every lame attempt at a joke and tell you you should have been a comedian. Psychopaths will try to convince you that you are soul mates, just alike.
This is called "love bombing." It's the idealization phase he gets you hooked on, and it's the phase you will spend the next however-many months or years trying to get back once he abruptly shuts it off. He loves all the things you love and you have all of the same interests. Does he seem like he's had a tough time with people, who always use and abandon him? Psychopaths absolutely love pity, so pay attention to how many illnesses and injuries he's had. A psychopath will sometimes blurt out something odd about himself, apropos of nothing.
What he's doing is called "mirroring." He has no real identity, so he sucks yours up and mirrors it back to you. Try to check out his stories -- call hospitals if you need to -- but don't be surprised if he has an excuse for why you can't find any record of any of his traumas. Psychopaths are also known to disappear for days at a time.
Be sure, the silent treatment and disappearing act will be laid squarely at your feet. Psychopaths love to work you up into a state of obsessive frenzy, so to do that, they idealize you, give you fabulous sex, and then begin pulling away and "triangulating." This is when they introduce other people into the mix to make you jealous.
That's why we understand each other." If there's an obscure book you love, he will make sure he loves it too. Pay careful attention to what a psychopath says on the first few dates about his exes and other people in his life. Does he break his foot on your second date and has to cancel? ) Did he lose his first wife in a car accident that left him with brain trauma (yet he talks fine and seems fine)? Everyone wants great sex, but those who have been with a psychopath often say it's the best thing they've ever experienced. A form of keeping you off balance -- but also possibly an unconscious slip of the mask of his persona. The first step in that is usually to give you the silent treatment over something.But I’m now totally ok with that fact that it’s not for me.And when someone presses for why I’m not OK Cupid-ing or Tinder-ing or EHarmonizing my way through these single years, I have also learned to articulate a few reasons.If he senses you are done with him, he will suddenly do an about-face, and begin bombarding you with pleas to stay together.He will try to "Hoover" (named after the vacuum cleaning company) you back in by saying everything you've ever wanted to hear, making a million promises, and suddenly being on his absolute best behavior.