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When I started dating my husband back in 1999, there was absolutely no place, discussion or support for Black women who were dating and/or married interracially.Necessity is the mother of invention when it comes to the work I do!I’ve often been called by my critics, “The Chief Bed Wench,” because I’m seen at the forefront of this issue. But many Black women are sensitive to that kind of insult and outright disapproval. We want the people in our lives to approve of the men we bring home. It comes down to what makes you happy and what makes your heart feel like it’s found its home.It kind of throws a damper on the inclination to explore interracial dating if you know your parents said they would disown you if you ever brought home a white boy. I’m seeing more and more Black women finding their bliss with the men who love and accept them, regardless of race. If you’re lonely and sad, but your entire peer group (including family) approves of the idea of never dating a non-Black man even if he was utterly kick-ass amazing, can you really say those people in your life want the best for you?Yet we’re statistically the least likely to date interracially. My goal is to encourage Black women to exercise all of their options. Discount no one because of melanin, or lack thereof. Candice: What advice would you offer women who don’t date interracially because of what people might think? I know a few women who would never date interracially, despite the knowledge that men of other races are interested in them.Candice: Why do you think there are so many Black women who don’t consider dating outside their race? Our country’s shameful history of slavery is often used as a club to beat Black women into submission about dating interracially, particularly when it comes to white men. I would say that if you’re the type of person who is overly concerned with what other people think about your life, then interracial dating is not for you.Candice: Another question I get a lot from Black women who are looking to date outside their race is how can they put themselves in the position to meet a man?Even in my own experience I feel like men either assume that I don’t date outside my race or they have hangups about how they’d introduce me to their friends/family (which presents another issue).
I feel like this approach could be a bit problematic (because I don’t believe race determines the quality of man).I mean actual, real-life interracial relationships. Despite its higher representation on TV and in pop culture, this is still a taboo subject, and one that is often met with a range of emotions that are not always positive.So I decided to talk to interracial relationship expert, Christelyn Karazin, Brand Ambassador for Interracial Dating Central.com, who gave her thoughts on the subject and why she is an interracial dating advocate particularly for Black women.But how would you respond to women who feel this way?Christelyn: Black women have a unique set of challenges in the dating market.