Temptation in christian dating
Even if you are no longer a virgin you can and should commit yourself to secondary virginity—to remain sexually pure from this day forward.You need more than good intentions to maintain your purity: you need a plan which includes avoidance and accountability.What do you want them to be doing now with someone else?
Don’t get engaged until you can put the wedding in sight.
You as an individual are fully responsible and accountable to God for what you do (Romans -12; 2 Corinthians ). Make your moral decisions in advance—not in the time of temptation.
If it’s left to your feelings in the moment of truth, you’ll make the wrong decision.
This should be a committed brother or sister in Christ, usually the same gender as you. Plan to pray at the end of the date to thank Him for it.
It should be someone who takes sexual purity seriously, someone with wise advice, who will pray for you and help hold you accountable to high standards. Pray together at the beginning and end of each date. Knowing this prayer is coming will help you to be sure to control yourself and please God. Imagine your parents and church leaders are watching you through the window. Then realize your life is not private—it’s an open book to be seen by a watching world: "What you have said in the dark will be heard in the daylight, and what you have whispered in the ear in the inner rooms will be proclaimed from the roofs” (Luke 12:3). When you sense the temptation coming, before things start to get out of control, RUN. When it comes to sexual temptation, it always pays to be a coward. Write out your own standards and enforce them yourself—never depend on your date.